Internet Addicts Face Double The Depression Risk

A study claims that pathological web use causes mental health problems 

 

Teenagers who are addicted to the internet are more than twice as likely to suffer depression, scientists claim. For the first time, a study claims that this 'pathological' web use causes mental health problems.

Previous research has been unable to work out whether spending hours online was a trigger for depression or merely an activity that depressed people turn to. The study looked at 1,000 teenagers in China with an average age of 15, who were assessed for depression and anxiety.

They also completed a questionnaire to identify if their internet use was pathological, which is seen as a sign of addiction and defined as uncontrolled or unreasonable.

It included questions such as: 'How often do you feel depressed, moody or nervous when you are offline, which goes away once you are back online?'

Six per cent, or 62 teenagers, were classified as having moderately pathological internet use, while 0.2 per cent, or two teenagers, were deemed severely at risk. Nine months later they were re-assessed for depression and anxiety. More than eight per cent, or 87 teenagers, had developed depression.

The risk for those addicted to the internet was about two-and-a-half times higher than for those who were not, the researchers said.

There was no link between excessive use and anxiety, according to the study published online in the medical journal Archives of Paediatrics And Adolescent Medicine.

It was carried out by Dr Lawrence Lam, of the School of Medicine in Sydney, Australia, and Zi-Wen Peng, of the Ministry of Education and Sun Yat-sen University in Guangzhou, China.

Dr Lam said: 'This result suggests that young people who are initially free of mental health problems but use the internet pathologically could develop depression as a consequence.

'Screening for at-risk individuals in the school setting could be considered an effective early prevention strategy.'

Perfect 10 Minutes in Sex

Couples who think they’re not measuring up because so many celebrities boast about sex sessions that last all night can take some comfort. Contrary to popular fantasy about the need for hours of passionate activity, sex therapists say around ten minutes is perfectly satisfactory.

In fact, shows such as Sex And The City and Desperate Housewives have created unrealistic expectations of bedroom performance that can only lead to disappointment. Real couples are satisfied with making love for between three and 13 minutes – and can find anything over ten minutes tiresome.

Researchers Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani conducted a survey of 50 members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, which include psychologists, physicians, social workers, marriage/family therapists and nurses. They have collectively seen thousands of patients over decades in the U.S. and Canada.

They were asked to rate a range of times for sexual intercourse that they considered adequate, desirable, too short and too long. Most of them classed lovemaking that lasted three to seven minutes as ‘adequate’ and sex lasting between seven and 13 minutes as ‘desirable’.

However, anything longer than 13 minutes was rated ‘too long.’ Most agreed that sex that lasted between one and two minutes was ‘too short’ to provide satisfaction.

The researchers said they wanted the results to ‘encourage’ couples.

‘Today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity,’ said Mr Corty, an Associate Professor of Psychology at Penn State University.

‘Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy of… all-night-long intercourse.

‘This seems a situation ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction.

‘We hope this survey will dispel fantasies and encourage men and women with realistic data.’

Corty and Guardiani published their findings in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. The survey comes as counseling services reported an increase in the number of couples complaining that they are disappointed with their sex lives.

Counseling organization Relate has seen a two-fold increase in the number of couples turning to sex therapy in the past five years. A separate survey published this month has shown that most married women would now rather go to sleep, read a book or watch a film than have sex.

Dell Android Tablet to Tackle The iPad

US computer giant Dell will begin selling an Android tablet computer called the "Streak" in Britain next month.

With a five-inch (12.5-centimeter) screen, the Streak is smaller than the Apple iPad which goes on sale in Australia on Friday following its debut in the United States last month.

"The Dell Streak hits the sweet spot between traditional smartphones and larger-screen tablets," Ron Garriques, the president of Dell Communication Solutions Group, said in a statement.

"Its unique size provides people new ways to enjoy, connect, and navigate their lives," Garriques said.

Apple's iPad has a 9.7-inch (24.6-centimeter) color screen. The California maker of the Macintosh computer, iPhone and iPod sold over one million of the devices in the first month of availability.

Dell said the Streak will be available in the United States later in the summer. A spokesman for Dell Australia there are not plans as yet to sell it in Australia.

The company did not announce prices for the device, which connects to the internet through Wi-Fi or 3G cellular networks.

Dell said the Streak gives users "'on-the-go' entertainment, social connection, and navigation experience" and is "ideal for experiencing thousands of Android Market widgets, games and applications."

The Streak features a multi-touch display, a high-resolution five megapixel camera and two gigabytes of dedicated storage, Dell said. Unlike the iPad, it can run Adobe's popular Flash software.

Fleas

A flea had oiled up his little flea legs and his little
flea arms, had spread put it's blanket, and was
proceeding to soak up the Miami sunshine when who
should stumble by on the beach but an old flea friend
of his.

"Oscar, what happened to you?" asked the flea, because
Oscar looked terrible, wrapped up in a blanket, nose
running, eyes red, and his teeth chattering.

"I got a ride down here in some guy's mustache and he
came down here by motorcycle, I nearly froze my nuts
off", wheezed Oscar.

"Let me give you a tip, old pal," said the first flea,
spreading some more suntan oil on his shoulders. "You
go to the stewardess lounge at the airport, see, and
you get up on the toilet seat, and when an Air Florida
stewardess comes in to take a leak, you hop on for a
nice warm ride. Got it?"

So you can imagine the flea's surprise when, a month or
so later, while stretched out all warm and comfortable
on the beach, who should he see but Oscar - looking
more chilled and miserable than before.

"Listen," said Oscar, "I did everything you said. I
made it to the stewardess lounge and waited till a
really cute one came in, and made a perfect landing and
got so warm and cozy that I dozed right off."

"And so?" asked the first flea.

"And so the next thing I know, I'm on the guy's
mustache again!"

Could You Make Love Every Day for A Month?

It sounds an impossible challenge: to make love every day for a month. But a series of studies have found that as well as bringing you closer together, it could help improve your well being. SARAH KAVANAGH, 31, a project co-ordinator, and her husband Colin, 40, a builder, from Cheshire, decided to try it. So how did they fare? Sarah says:

On the eve of the 12th anniversary of our first date, I told my husband Colin that I'd got him a very special gift that would remind us both just how much we still mean to each other.

As he tried to guess what it might be I assured him that this was something far more meaningful than a weekend away or a blown-up photograph from our wedding album.

His gift was, in fact, to make love with me every day for the following month.

Colin's immediate reaction, just as I'd hoped, was to look like a man who'd been told he'd won the Lottery.

But almost immediately his face then fell.

'We used to have sex every day as a matter of course,' he said grumpily. 'Now you're offering it up as a gift and I'm supposed to be grateful?'

This really wasn't what I'd expected, having just offered love on request to the man I married seven years ago and who is always bending my ear that we don't do it enough. Somehow my well-meant offer had suddenly brought us to the brink of a row.

I'd come up with the idea because, in common with so many couples, in recent years lovemaking had been relegated in my agenda.

Unlike the heady days when Colin and I first met, now there is always something else that takes precedence - from work to domestic chores and even the simple pleasure of a full night's sleep.

When we met, I was 19 and Colin ten years older - the sexual attraction was mutual and instant. For the first few months, our passionate love life defined us, but as months turned to years and we got engaged and then married, things inevitably changed.

Over time, familiarity, the stresses of work and day-to-day life and the fact my sex drive just isn't what it used to be have combined to dampen the passion we once took for granted.

These days we make love about once a week. And, in common with many of my friend's husbands, Colin regularly complains that this just isn't enough.

Which is why I'd presumed that this gift would be welcomed rather than the cause of a row.

Later that evening, we talked it through.

'At least when we do it, it's spontaneous,' Colin told me. 'You putting it into your diary isn't exactly a turn on.'

But despite his reservations, we decided to give it a go.

Somehow I felt certain that in the years ahead he would look back on this as the most intimate gift of our marriage.

DAY ONE

There's no time like the present, so, for the first time in at least five years we make love on a work day before I've even put the kettle on.

So much for Colin worrying about this taking the spontaneity out of sex: this feels impulsive and slightly wicked.

I arrive at work with a smug smile on my face (though guiltily note that this also means I'm off the hook at bedtime, having done the day's deed already).

DAY TWO

Home from work later than usual, I walk in to find the table beautifully set with candles and flowers and dinner in the oven.

The last time Colin did this was our wedding anniversary, but this is just an ordinary evening. It's amazing what the promise of frequent sex brings out in a man.

DAY THREE

Home to find the table set and Colin's cooking again - I could get used to this. I feel spoilt, especially when he refuses to let me wash up and sends me upstairs for a soak in the bath. This is beginning to feel as much a gift for me as for Colin.

DAY FOUR

I've stayed late at work and missed the last bus home, so I've had to fork out for a taxi when I'm dangerously close to payday. I'm in a foul mood when I walk into the house and am greeted by the same scene as the last two days.

'God, this is starting to feel like Groundhog Day,' I snap unkindly. We eat in silence, and I start to feel guilty when I think how much effort Colin is making. 'Leave the dishes,' I tell him. 'It's time for your present.'

DAY FIVE

Last night could so easily have ended with us going to sleep not speaking after I arrived home so tired and grumpy.

Instead we slept wrapped up in each other's arms, just like the old days. It's Saturday, so we're less restricted on when we can make love. We decide to get our chores done: the house needs cleaning and Colin needs to tackle the garden.

We're shattered and fall asleep on the sofa. Colin's snoring wakes me up just before midnight. 'Quick,' I tell him, as I shake him awake and push the cats out of the room. 'Otherwise it won't count.'

DAY SIX

Sundays in our house are normally lazy affairs, but today we've got a christening to go to and we're running late. We vow to make love as soon as we get home, but while Colin doesn't drink, I'm partial to champagne, and it's been flowing all afternoon.

Back home, all I want to do is go to bed and sleep, but, of course, I can't.

DAY SEVEN

I'm beginning to wonder if this was such a good idea.

Last night, love-making felt like a chore for the first time, and because neither of us was particularly in the mood we just went through the motions.

I'm not looking forward to bedtime and Colin admits he's not interested either. Sure enough, we fall asleep without any marital relations taking place. Looks like this could be over before it got started.

DAY EIGHT

I wake up cross with both of us that we've given up so easily, and tell Colin we've got to make up for last night by making love twice today.

We tackle the project with renewed vigour before work and then again straight after dinner.

'At least now we can go to bed and go straight to sleep,' says Colin. I feign indignation, but he's only said exactly what I was thinking.

DAY NINE

Colin wakes up hoping for a repeat performance of yesterday, but I'm not playing. I have to be in work early. 'Tonight, I promise,' I say as we kiss goodbye.

What's normally a brief kiss turns into a passionate one - not bad considering we've been together more than a decade. I think about Colin regularly through the day.

DAY TEN

My sister calls to remind me that I've promised to baby-sit my 11 and 14-year-old nieces this weekend. I tell her that I'm worried this might impact on our lovemaking.

'Welcome to my world,' she scoffs, before telling me I can't back out on my sisterly duties. I tell Colin that we have to practise being very quiet.

DAY 11

The girls arrive armed with DVDs and bags of sweets, and announce they want to stay up really late, just like they did last time they stayed over. By 11pm, I'm pleading with them to go to sleep.

'Forget it,' I snap at Colin when I finally get under the duvet. There's no way I can do that with the girls awake on the other side of the wall.

DAY 12

Little wonder couples with children complain they don't have enough sex: finding an opportunity with these two in the house is all but impossible.

In the end, I send them out with a long shopping list, set the timer on my phone to go off in ten minutes and drag Colin upstairs. 'Look on it as a challenge,' I tell him.

DAY 13

The girls go home and we've got the house to ourselves. Midmorning I say breezily: 'I'll just vacuum and then we can go to bed.'

Bad move. I accidentally suck up one of the girl's hair bobbles and it gets stuck in the machine.

It takes Colin an hour to get it going again, by which time love is the last thing on either of our minds. But we do it anyway and then go out for lunch, something we realise we just don't do often enough.

DAY 14

I go out for a drink after work with a girlfriend and tell her about our project. 'You must be mad,' she says, before warning me that our friendship will be ruined if Colin or I tell her husband what we're up to. 'Don't you dare go giving him any daft ideas.'

DAY 15

I'm going to be working late tonight, so I set the alarm for 6am so we can get our duties out of the way before the day gets started. Colin grunts when I try to nudge him awake. 'I need my sleep,' he groans.

Maybe he'll be a bit more understanding when he's in the mood for love and I say that I'm too tired.

DAY 16

Friends come round for a midweek dinner and comment on how attentive we seem to each other. I keep quiet about why, having taken note of my friend's reaction earlier in the week, but throw Colin a wink.

We're definitely a lot more tactile with each other, and have started flirting again.

DAY 17

I spoke too soon - we've had a huge row over the fact that Colin forgot to put out the bin last night and now we're up to our eyes in rubbish.

He can't see why I'm making such a fuss, which only makes me madder. The last thing I want to do is to make love with Colin. Normally something like this would be the perfect excuse to withhold sex, but that's not an option.

It's difficult to stay cross with someone you've made love to - Colin promises to make a trip to the tip and all is forgiven.

DAY 18

I've got a streaming cold and a headache. Colin is keeping his distance. 'What about a cuddle?' I ask as I splutter into a tissue. 'No thanks,' says Colin. 'I'm sleeping in the spare room.'

DAY 19

Still poorly, so I stay in bed. Colin spends the day bringing me hot drinks and homemade soup, and does all the housework so I can rest.

He's never been this attentive when I've had a cold before - all this lovemaking has made him a changed man.

DAY 20

The weekend has been a write-off on the sex front, yet Colin and I feel closer and more relaxed than we have in a long time.

It brings it home to me how important regular sex in a marriage is to nurture the bond you share.

DAY 21

Back to work, and I'm almost restored to full health. I send Colin a flirty text hinting at the fun we'll be able to enjoy when we see each other later. I can't believe I'm chatting up my own husband.

DAY 22

I notice that my trousers are a little looser, so I step on the scales and discover I've lost 2lb. All this extra exercise is doing me good.

DAY 23

A friend is in town and stays the night. I'd emailed her at the start of the month and told her what we were doing, which she brings up over dinner, joking that we'd better not keep her awake tonight.

This puts Colin in a bad mood because I've let slip what we're up to, and when she goes to bed he has a go at me for being indiscreet. I try to laugh it off, but he's really cross about it. He refuses to make love. I lie awake fuming - isn't it supposed to be the woman who withholds favours?

DAY 24

Colin wakes feeling guilty and suggests we make up for missing out yesterday. I realise that the argument will only escalate if I refuse. Instead, we make love and the grumpiness vanishes. We make love again that evening, our row long forgotten.

DAY 25

I meet my mum for lunch and she comments on how fresh-faced I appear. 'Have you discovered a new foundation?' she asks.

I must say I feel more attractive and better about myself than I have in years. Feeling desired does wonders for a woman's self-esteem.

DAY 26

I'm having to factor in an extra ten minutes into my daily grooming regime so I can shave my legs, and I'm wearing more make-up than usual.

I'm going to continue with this after the month is up - it's nice to feel groomed, whether it's with sex in mind or not.

DAY 27

We're near the end of Colin's gift, so we decide to spend the entire day in bed, just as we did on Sundays when we first became a couple. It's not just about sex - it's about relishing shutting out the rest of the world. We'd like a family, so we need to make the most of days like this.

DAY 28

We've made love 25 times in 28 days, and there's no question that we've grown closer as a result.

I thought I might be relieved to get to the last day, but I'm just determined to make sex far more of a priority than it used to be.

My friend has lent me a DVD I've wanted to watch for ages, so I put it on after dinner. Colin and I cuddle up on the sofa together to watch it - normally he spreads out on one chair while I take over another.

'When did we stop doing this?' I ask him. We go to bed tired and we've got work in the morning.

'Let's just cuddle,' says Colin, and as we drift off to sleep it feels like the perfect end to the present that ended up being a gift not just for Colin, but for our marriage, too.

Get Married

Hows married life treating you?
Are you off work much longer?
Lucky you if you are!

I was wondering if you knew when the girls were going to get their stuff from the party?

I've had a few that said they haven't gotten theirs yet.
Let me know

Thanks!

Account Executive AE Vacancy LSK

We are one of a telecommunication companies located in South Jakarta, is looking for a new employee for our subsidiary with the condition as follows :
Position : Account Executive (AE, with prospect for AM)

Requirements :
- Minimum graduated (DIII) from Public Relations School/Communication
- Proficiency in English
- Working experience at least 2 years in mobile content business (Content Provider) is a must
- Preferable “Female”
- Able to monitor traffic & analysis for program including traffic trend, revenue leakage, content analysis, competitor analysis
- Developing a new program and services
- Responsible to provide a regular reporting (daily, weekly, monthly) and ad hoc
- Responsible to create promotion plan and analysis
- Team work
- Age less than 30 yrs old
- Good communication and interpersonal skill

If you meet the above requirements, please send your CV and recent photo to : HRD Department, PT Lintas Sarana Komunikasi Attn. Ms. Yayuk, e-mail address : hrd@lsk.co.id (max. 100 kb) not later than February 5, 2010. Only short listed candidate will be notified.
Jakarta, February 1, 2010
HRD Department - LSK Group
Yayuk H.G.

Programmer VB Vacancy 2010

Due to the necessities to bring our vision came true, we urgently seek for strong – motivated individuals to be posted as :
Programmer ( VB )
Requirements
- Male / Female, age between 22 until 27 years old
- Candidate must posses at least a Bachelor Degree from Informatics Technical, or Informatics Management with GPA min 2.75
- Min having 1-2 years experience in the related working field and development software project with enterprise basic (Fresh Graduate with related skills also can apply)
- Strong background in VB programming language, ASP.NET or VB.NET
- Strong in Database design as SQL Server & My SQL
- Understand about Hardware Installation and trouble shooting would be a plus
- Strong Analytical / Logical Skill
- Minimum Passive in English
- Active, initiative, self motivated and hard worker and also able to work as individual and team
- Preferable live at North Jakarta or East Jakarta and can join immediately

If you meet with our requirement, please send your application letter, CV, phone number & latest photo not later than February 27th 2010 to the following address :

PT. PBM OLAH JASA ANDAL ( TEMAS GROUP )
GEDUNG TEMAS, Lt. 2
Jl. Tembang No.51 - Tanjung Priok
Jakarta Utara 14310
or email to: risma@oja.co.id
Phone : 021 - 4302388, Ext. 616, Fax : 021 - 43800461

Sound Engineer Staff Vacancy 2010

Job Vacancy
Sound Engineer Staff
Job Title : Staff
Job Function : Make Ring Tone and Audio content
Job Position : Composer / Sound Engineer
Work Location : Jakarta
Level of Education : Bachelor’s Degree
Major : Any Major
Work Experience : 0-1 year
Gender : Male
Age : Between 20 - 25
Offering Salary : Negotiable
Requirement:
1. Able to work independently with schedule task.
2. From reputable University (Fresh graduated are welcome
3. Expert on midi based audio / music production software, such as : cubase/nuendo, cakewalk, adobe audition, etc
4. Common with many audio files types and work with several music/audio converter.
5. Good sense of music and full of ideas in choosing the best backsound music.
6. Have an experience on audio content and music will be advantages.
7. Able to operate Ms. Office
Closing Date : 12 February 2010

Send the complete curriculum vitae to:
PT.TRIYAKOM
Menara Ravindo Lt.12
Jl. Kebon Sirih Kav.75
Jakarta Pusat – 10340
Or e-mail to : hr-prod@triyakom.com

Programmer J2SE, Java, PHP Vacancy

We are one of a reputable tower operator companies located in South Jakarta, is looking for a new position for our subsidiary with the condition as follows : Position : Programmer

- Graduated form D III, Informatika or IT College
- Proficiency in English (at least passive)
- Age around 25 - 28 yrs old
- Good interpersonal skill and team work
- Monitoring application activities on daily basis, including but not limited to monitoring the CPU load, free disk space, open connections, access privileges, warning and error occurred, and client activities.
- Responsible to provide regular report
- Responsible for coordination with operator’s technical support for any technical issues regarding to the service.
- Responsible for to fulfill any change requests or improvement request made by Management and/or Operator
- 1 year minimum working experience with Content Provider (CP) is a must, with the following technical expertise : Programming (J2SE, Java Servlet, PHP), Database : (RDBMS, SQL) and Reporting

If you meet the above requirements, Please send your CV and current photo to : PT Lintas Sarana Komunikasi, HRD Department Attn. Ms. Yayuk with e-mail address : hrd@lsk.co.id, not later than February 5, 2010. Only short listed will be notified.

Jakarta, February 1, 2010
PT LINTAS SARANA KOMUNIKASI
Yayuk H. Gaffar

Geographic Information System Coordinator (GIS Coordinator)

A privately owned new oil and gas company in Jakarta is looking for a GIS Coordinator to join a small dedicated team supporting exploration activities in two PSCs and several potential bid blocks. This new company will operate at least one PSC.

The GIS Coordinator should hold a University degree in geodetic engineering, geology, or related field and have at least two years experience with MapInfo and other GIS systems. Experience and skill with other software packages such Kingdom, Petrosys, GS, or PetroView is a plus.
The position offers competitive salary and a unique working environment in a Kemang office. Please send your expression of interest and C.V. to the below contact.
Vidya Nugraheni
Email: vdyanugraheni@yahoo.com

Lasagna recipe

Lasagna

· 1 lb. sausage and/or ground beef

· 1 clove garlic

· 1 tbs. whole basil

· 1 ½ tsp salt

· 1 – 1 lb can of tomato sauce (2 cups)

· 12 oz tomato paste

· 10 oz lasagna noodles (I use 4 per layer for a total of 8)

· 3 cups cottage cheese (small curd, 1 large container = 3 cups)

· ½ cup grated Parmesan cheese

· 2 tbsp. parsley flakes

· 2 beaten eggs

· 1 tsp salt

· ½ tsp pepper

· 1 lb Mozzarella cheese

Oven 375 degrees

Brown meat; drain off fat. Add next 5 ingredients. Simmer uncovered 30 minutes stirring occasionally. Cook noodles as directed on box. Mix next 6 ingredients.

Layer 9x13 inch pan – first, ½ noodles, then ½ cottage cheese mixture, then ½ meat, then ½ Mozzarella cheese. Repeat layers.

Bake for 30 minutes. Let stand for 10 minutes before cutting.

You can assemble early (up to 24 hours) and refrigerate. Allow 15 mins or longer in oven if you have refrigerated the lasagna. Freezes well for future use.

Understanding

I am writing this letter so you can hopefully understand me better. I hide my emotion sometimes. I am like the moon. I have different faces. I tend to be the quiet type or in contrast I am not happy but sometimes I act it out in order for me to not burden my friends and family with my problems. I've faced some problems in your life. My heart has been dealt blows before . I tend to think about things a lot more than other people, and I get annoyed with people who act out without thinking about consequences. I am often the one people come to with their problems because I've been through plenty myself and I try to be understanding. I often feel lonely as if no one understands me. I often come of as relaxed when really I am not. I am usually logical, and rely on facts and information to make my decisions. I keep things to myself. This is just one side of me. I have different faces in different situations and environments just like the moon has phases. This is why I come off to you as different some times. Sorry!!! I hope we can reach a point of understanding somewhere. Maybe sometime you will actually know the entire me.

Laptop Crash

Well I’ve had my laptop for about 3 and 1/3 years, Today I was using my laptop when the fans suddenly started going at full speed and about a minute later the laptop abruptly shut down. I tried to restart it by pushing the power button but all that happened was the power light flickered and the hard drive light flickered as well. I also heard the hard drive click. This happens every time I try and start up the computer. Things that I have done include: take out battery, unplug power cord, and I also opened it up to make sure everything was connected and nothing looked bad (I’ve taken apart and fixed many computers so I know what I’m doing, but not laptops). Still doesn’t work. Any suggestions would be appreciated, right now I think it’s the motherboard, but I could be wrong. Thanks in advance!